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Crisis and labor relations




Crisis and work

Too much work, no job, a job that does not meet, a job that is not enough to make ends meet, a work environment in which we live badly: there are many situations that can bind a state of crisis to a work situation (or lack of work). Certainly in today's society the main reason of crisis is often caused by unemployment, a condition which in turn fits within a broader framework of an economy in crisis, increasingly global economy whose mechanisms seem to fall more and more often due to errors of measurement and bad faith with which some, indeed many, are acting.
basically work, if you choose to play one, with some differences from person to person and from job to job, plays a role: keep busy, makes a profit, avoid boredom, time frame, gives meaning, allows integration social, is a source of identity. It is also said that the work is a source of creativity and skill and keep healthy, it is argued that in fact in many ways the work ennobles man, of course, is hard to see how effective this potential labor especially for some categories of work and especially if one considers the fact that each year the number of workplace fatalities continued to rise. Even if work you can die, its lack or dissatisfaction towards their working reality can be a serious source of stress, helplessness, irritability, anxiety and concern.


Here, I open the "windows" on the job, for example, of course, but not exhaustive.

Crisis and type of work:

Sometimes the crisis does not come from the lack or loss of job, but dissatisfaction towards the type of work we do. Sometimes we put aside our aspirations and we chose the certainty of the money, the reality of job security, work that allows us to reconcile our time with the family or that more befits a lifestyle that is appropriate (or at least we used to consider this), or have instead chosen a risky job, adventurous, and the certainty and security that allow other jobs , begin to "make us groove." And so, sometimes more or less suddenly the "perfect mechanism jams" and we are left with a high level of frustration and with a desire to leave everything, cursing each working day and the "golden cage" in which we more or less consciously held. Other times, we evaluated our choices consciously and carefully, however, the need for change breaks powerfully into our lives and puts us at a crossroads with two directions: stay where you are or take a new road.

We must remember that the way to "live" and feel its working dimension affect a number of factors: individual predispositions, social environment, family background, practical needs (money) and irrational needs (satisfaction, self esteem, social recognition, image , etc.).. Ideally, rational and irrational needs always coincide, but nevertheless this is the situation more difficult, and so sometimes we have to be "tossed" in the conflict between "the heart and reason" and more, especially when we are in crisis, the reasons of the mind and the reasons of the heart, not always "speak" clearly, we create even more confusion than ever. Often, when the experience that sends us in crisis is dissatisfaction with the work behind this sense of frustration emotional needs are not well deciphered or rational requirements that force us to respond equally rational. The situations may be the most diverse, certainly the attitude that should take a careful analysis is critical and maybe you can also ask for expert advice from an expert who will facilitate in making us aware of our needs and our reasons for the crisis. We must bear in mind that once deciphered the reasons for the crisis, we have to choices, choices definitive and categorical, are well-considered, should assess the risks and benefits and if the "worth it" you can choose to implement them. Certainly not always and necessarily the solution to the crisis must be a final choice, sometimes you can find a smooth solution. For example, if your greatest desire is to earn more, you need to understand what is the way to do that: two jobs, a career, a different job, a parallel activity. If the desire is to give room for creativity, you can radically change jobs or even maintain it, carving out, however, non-work spaces in which to unleash creativity. The greatest risk in this kind of crisis is that fear of change (the sense of responsibility for some, the inability to take responsibility for others) paralyzes us and remains there to throw down and tell dissatisfied, and do nothing constructive choices. The healthiest attitude is rather to decipher the needs and see what possible ways you can travel to meet them. It is seen that very often those who dare to get results much more satisfactory than those who remain trapped in their fears, but as mentioned above, the categorical choices are not for everyone, you can then choose some little creative adjustment to be made to their working lives and beyond.

may also happen that the crisis that we feel like work and we tell ourselves as such, instead of hiding other issues but we do not like to deal with. Ultimately, it may happen that we start complaining about how it is destroying the work because it is easier to blame the job rather than admit that we are living in unsatisfactory relationships, which we lie to ourselves, that we do not have the courage to change their lives. Listen, understand, is the first way to begin to assess if it really is about the size of work that we must implement a change or whether they are other spheres of our lives that need to be reviewed. E perhaps, after the crisis, our work will return to delight in, or maybe not, but anyway we will act with greater awareness.
One factor that should undoubtedly be taken into consideration is that, of course, does not mean that what we liked at twenty to forty is to our liking, and at the same time, crises of life, accident, may dramatically influence the degree of satisfaction from work.
can happen that the change comes knocking at our door, we must understand when it is appropriate to do so come in and when it is appropriate to send him away, do not change by force but at times, however, if you want to live a full and satisfactory it should be.

crisis and lack Work:

stressors arising from unemployment are different. Among them must be considered disposable income decreased, the concern of failing to meet financial deadlines (costs of food, lodging, transportation, etc..), The emergence of feelings of insecurity for the future, lack or loss of goals and ambitions that correlates to that status, such as the reduction of social life, the restriction of activities and interests, limiting the sense of personal freedom. It can also be an important part of the fear of losing their skills for non-use, the emergence of feelings of inferiority, decreasing self-esteem. Specifically, it seems that there are some typical negative reactions to the lack of work: •
employee attitude: to rely on institutions is seen as the only way to employability;
• vindictive attitude: the institutions are perceived as responsible for their own discomfort;
• defeatist attitude: the work is useless, the world is dangerous and should be refused the proximity (reaction of antisocial behavior);
• innovation: it reflects the cultural importance of the goal but the lack of emphasis on legitimate means and lack of opportunity lead to the use of alternative methods, unlawful; •
rebellion: the conviction that the failure to achieve the goals stated depends on the structure of the company brings to refuse obedience to any social structure. According to Goffman

the condition of unemployment means that the individual experiences a sort of "identity denied" this interpretation of unemployment there is no doubt understand how difficult it is to live and unemployment because people often end up jobless play a role in the Vicar of "consultant", senior, student, to prevent the erosion of self-esteem and demoralization. E 'undeniable: at least for a large part of our Western society, work defines our identity and bind to it in our lives. The point is that, beyond the personal inclinations (workers or enthusiasts who love the sweet doing nothing) we need the work, marks our days and is a dimension closely linked to our sense of self-efficacy. There are many studies which have been observed through the effects of unemployment on people, these studies show us that:

1. those who have experienced periods of unemployment is less stressed for those who are first time;
2. the difference between those who have family and those who do not is small;
3. who attributes his failure to a specific area of \u200b\u200bhis Life is more stressful for those who extend it to life in general;
4. the liability is greater for those who are unemployed the longest;
5. move from one job to another can be even more difficult if it involves a worsening of working conditions;
6. working conditions are very important for the older unemployed. That claim will certainly be greater for the unemployed who are not their first work experience, having worked for years in the same sector and have therefore gained much experience and they built a family in the meantime;
7. who has dedicated his life to a single application may wish to retain identity built through years of difficult choices and career (Sennett, 1998) and therefore the greater the amount of time spent working in the same sector, the lower the willingness to accept a different job and leave unemployment.

Moreover, it appears that the unemployed person is more important, in order: a sense of personal satisfaction, to feel useful, to establish social relations, solve economic problems. And yet, it was seen that the strength of the sense of self-efficacy is significantly related to the number of job-seeking activities (Decker, 1963) and a lower impact of the negative effects of stressful work situations (Jimmieon, 2000)
For Seligman people after repeated failures in reaching their objectives, autoconvincono to be powerless in the face of adversity, renouncing all activities that could improve the situation, especially when the failures are attributed to a causal factor is stable over time and procedure. This means that if the repeated failures in finding a job or in the outcome of the talks are attributed to lack of personal capacity and not lack of effort or high difficulty of the interview itself, the unemployed may feel helpless and decide that it is worth the trouble groped . The decision to resign will be more likely to be as close to retirement age, because the eventual success of the job search will be perceived as too temporary to be worth it.

It seems essential to mention here that reminds us of what Sen (1997) (although his speech fits into a broader economic and employment policies), because people learn by doing, the forced inactivity due to unemployment causes unlearn not doing, unless we put to the test, the less we do, we learn less and less we believe we can do. In fact one response to unemployment is the restriction of the (Agency restriction theory): it restricts the type of possible actions (Fryer, 1986) and compromise with their own projects, with their lives. In the condition of unemployment and then take over two of the form of restriction: an objective, we can define forced by the very condition of unemployment, which, not having a job no experience, do not we form and we are increasingly 'out of the market "The other form of restriction of the action, means that, beyond the actual possibilities, the unemployed person starts to experience yourself as a victim of the system and said that many things for him that is unemployed is not possible.

What destroys the person with the most unemployment is the feeling of losing control of their lives, and so begin to be less adequate coping strategies.

However, what you must do is: • not restrict

actions;
• avoid slavery money, ask, take action (but we shall see later, for example, there are a number of disparate types of activities you can do for free) •
not let yourself lean on (share their problems is important, both with people who also live in first-person with whom you feel then to be "in the same boat" - and with people who but do not live the same situation and as such there may be more support and provide alternative strategies to the way we deal with the problem);
• activate resources and alternative strategies.

- Segue.

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As I said I will dedicate to speak to various aspects of crisis and, today I'll talk a little bit of crisis and world relations.

The world of relationships is equally fascinating and sometimes disturbing to the human psyche. Because of relationships (friendships, romantic, work) we enjoy, suffer, upsetting or organize our lives and times, however, the lack of reports or for the loss of some of our reports we lock up prison in a desolate solitude.

In this post I will focus to give some indications on the relationships that they fail, even in this case I want to emphasize that the crisis is more than normal, there are reports that come out strengthened from the crisis and others that are destroyed . The crisis is physiological, it can get because there is a need to change, because there are events that challenge, or because the game "evil" (in the case of relationships that is based on compromise, on a continuing waiver of the two partner opportunism on childhood illusions, etc..) that has been established no longer holds and reveals, through the crisis, the fragility of the relationship. The crisis, when it comes to toppling a friendship, a couple or a group, it has a strong meaning, it means that the parties are no longer in balance, therefore need to reassess and find a new equilibrium, or are intended to separate.

In general it is a couple of friends, a group, you must consider that when a relationship is established comes from similarities or differences in well-marked by special moments of life, etc.. And most of unconscious motives may exist for which you have with a person more than another for reasons which are not fully aware, for example, is convinced to be with a person because you love and you are attracted, but unconsciously his social status is that attracts us, because it responds to our need for social redemption. Or, you are convinced of being / the biggest friend of a person and really was fascinated by the world who attended that person, his hobby, or even by his clothes (defined as the attention that the person has for his image)! I'm not talking here of a greater or lesser forms of opportunism, but unconscious motivations that can lead us to initiate relationships, usually not fully aware of these reasons and because of this it can happen that we get stuck in relationships that we really want only partially. And 'course, or at least should be, all that we choose people who we like, but in our relationship choices count both our conscious and unconscious motivations, and sometimes are those unconscious (in fact, without realizing it) to push us the crisis.

And if we choose people who really do not estimate we realize, people who feel unpleasant, but we are together, then we should perhaps make us any question about how we value ourselves, how much pleasure and we feel worthy of being loved or rather what used to believe that we are not we tie ourselves to people we do not like and maybe even abuse.
Throughout our lives, happen changes in us, it is only normal, it can happen that we change and our partner / group / friend does not, or it can happen that the two parties on different aspects of change in question and that maybe, just change the case makes no you are more or why, or how to stay together. And, again, as mentioned earlier, it is possible that without realizing there are bound to a friend, a partner, a group that we believe may unconsciously compensate for our insecurities, our need for acceptance, certainty, creativity, etc. . It is not difficult, in fact, fall into the trap of "I tie that person to feel good," but must be well alone and then learn to live with each other.

I'd like to leave here a sort of cookbook relations "if this happens, you have to do this" and so on, and I'd also say you should not suffer if a relationship breaks down, if it becomes difficult or if you just when everything becomes extremely simple, paradoxically, no longer willing to carry it forward. But unfortunately and fortunately, I can not do everything and, I repeat, unfortunately and fortunately, the reports are so simple and so complex, so wonderful and so terrible, so obvious and so unpredictable, you can not and does not must use a form to live them. You can if you ever look inside, understand their motivation, remember that the only change is that we act on ourselves and not the other. If you want to live and enjoy the joy that relations damage, must also be willing to take "risks" that they may come: the loss, separation, betrayal, conflict. Are these "ghosts" that scare everybody, but not as willing to confront when you consider the joy that provides the comforting word of a dear friend, the kiss of a loved one, a trip with friends, etc..? Of course it is harder to feel this way if a friend has betrayed us, if your beloved has left us, if we lost or if we had to leave friends and maybe to work with a sudden and accidental event, the point is that we may, from time to time, make choices, but we can not have complete control over our lives, we can not predict everything in store only what is positive, we can "only" live, and if there is any hiccup, stopping to heal "wounds" and then on our way again and start life anew.

As I write I'm thinking to those who for some reason you end up with a story of life with or without disordered and I think those who have lost their parents too soon, to those who have never known them to those why best teacher was just up the road or against those who among the many teachers and schools and even great chance found themselves lost and disoriented, alone or abandoned, these people do not know if you ever come across in these lines, but if I happen to especially like to suggest them to take account of the first face and sincere friend who is coming, not to remove him and try to find out what it means to trust, let go and be in relationship with someone, you can change your life if you want.
Then you must always remember that to claim to be in connection one must be at least two, we can do to a certain point, we may seek food, breaking a relationship, but there is always a part that belongs to another, and without which we live only half a report
Returning to the factors that could serve as a source of crisis in relations, I think we can classify them, only by way of example, in the following categories:

• tangible factors: money, physical distance, the new job, change within the family (a son for example). A number of factors, whether positively or negatively affect our lives may be, if not responsible, however, trigger the crisis: that it is a friendship, an intimate relationship or a group. For example, money plays a significant role because it bind our experiences and our status, and an increase of money or a reduction in our revenue may affect our relations. Or a transfer: we believe that a relationship with someone (friend or partner may be) last forever and that the distance will not affect the relationship, then it happens rather than the everyday prevails and the bond distance becomes weaker and weaker. These same examples also apply to positive, for example, we find ourselves in a situation of economic difficulty (bad in itself) and on this occasion we discover the solidarity of family and friends, or we are forced to turn away for a transfer from a friend or a partner with whom we were in crisis, thanks to the distance and instead understand its importance and the relationship is strengthened. There are, in short, changes or conditions specific to where life leads us or compels us and that may contribute to the crisis.
  
• individual factors: can happen that change over time, or rather grow up with some of our issues and perhaps exacerbate some defects, or they cannot angles, and it may happen that the change has brought new vitality as well as crisis in a relationship: the other no longer recognizes. Most often this happens even when you embark on a course of psychotherapy or personal growth, however, is become aware of many things, you mature and you make changes to their way of being and not all who are around us are ready to embrace change. Sometimes changes occur in us due to new knowledge, new activities, new groups of people who go: we begin to dress differently, speak and think about different things, in short, we bring news of our lives and maybe we are left with someone close that is rather frightened by this news. And often they are simply our distinctive traits in the most intimate relationships especially, are best or the worst, the greater the intimacy of a relationship is more likely acuiamo that our faults and our more significant advantages.
  
• critical events: individual moments of difficulty such as crisis or illness put a strain on both ourselves and those around us, some of the episodes that most can strain relationships are the deaths and losses as well as trauma, particularly if violence (accidents, assaults, etc.).. But sometimes it is the hardest moments, critical incidents, we show our strength as well as the love that surrounds us. But we must say that very often the people as a result of trauma, loss and so on. tend to react by closing all the bridges with the "world" which belongs to the times before of trauma, you want to stop, stop to think, remember and feel the need to turn the whole page. For this reason, you should not take hasty decisions, but leave a little 'time to decide if you really want to understand and change their life, partner, friend, or if you are only justifiable in the throes of emotional crisis. Another critical factor, can be a traumatic event not experienced first hand but from a friend, family etc.., Disease, trauma of a loved one affects us, inevitably, think of how it can be difficult for couples to understand and accept that their child is born disabled, this is because for example in the first years of life is a factor that causes separation of many couples.
  
• unhealthy compromises: sometimes relationships are governed by equilibrium, or it might be more appropriate to say imbalances, unhealthy. The "nurse" and "sick", the "savior" and the "victim", the "arrogant" and "unsafe", the "masochistic" and "sadistic", are all examples of those relationships (friendships , sentimental, work), which creates a perverse game in which there is a huge imbalance between the parties and an extreme fixity of roles. These are situations where one party or both are always complaining the other and yet remain together. For example, one party alone, and also takes the place of the decisions, one of the components of the pair is very attentive and caring and the other is completely selfless, the other one is true to the infidel; part is responsible the other is totally irresponsible and unreliable, and always leans to the other, or even, the two partners (friends, colleagues, boyfriends) are not bound by a specific feeling or a valid rationale, but from an idea of \u200b\u200bthe instrumental ' other (in pairs because I want a child, I choose that because it is very competent colleague and I need for my projects, etc.). perhaps that is not consciously, but failed the objective (a son, a project work, etc.). you get to watch another as inappropriate and the pair broke out. In short, there are reports that there is a real imbalance, overload and discontent, especially a party, often in these situations where a party in question ceases to play its role (the savior, the sadistic, etc..) Report has paradoxically Finally, if the perverse game (couples who "leave and take" violent partners, working couples where only one of two gains, etc..), the partner who remains trapped in the vicious role will tend to seek a new partner " ill " and continue the game insane.

no indication of what may be interesting to see reports of various kinds if they fail.

• Friendship: you can stop wondering at first that we need our friend replied that basically, as the feeling of friendship is to be sustained by affection, a friend plays a role in our lives, sometimes This role is fixed: the friend who always helps us, what makes us laugh, so what we recommend. If we begin to feel that something is wrong with the way his friend would perform with us, and we must first ask how this friend there is satisfying in playing the role in which we usually see him do what there is to go beyond their personal egos and realize that a friend is always there to answer our needs, after which consideration should is in crisis, our friend, our view of him, or simply we are changing and we see things differently. If it is a friend who warns us that something is wrong, it's up to him to make his "analysis", we wonder what we're really doing it because he feels entitled to complain or accuse us. Very often, the crisis of friendship have to deal with fits of jealousy and possession or "attacks" fair and trust. That we find ourselves in the role of those who must apologize to those who must or choose to accept or not an apology (if they arrive), you should always try to have a critical but not to point fingers at each other and above all avoid arguments when the spirits are not very quiet and I think that in friendship the key issue is that of the borders, so one may wonder how he allowed his friend to cross the boundaries of their generosity, their trust, their loyalty, or vice versa as we have managed to intrude into the "ground" of the other. There are many definitions of friendship and many quotes on it, but right now I feel like friend who knows how to point you to define its borders, knows yours, and is always ready to stop in time before crossing.
  romantic relationships: I have deliberately made a distinction between romantic relationships and couples, because not everyone who establishes a relationship is defined as a couple. However, when a relationship breaks down I think the most interesting thing on which the dwelling is "what I'm looking in the other?". And when you start to respond with all our needs are, such as acceptance, caring, and so on, must include at least two things: one that is merely said to include what are our needs, we can learn to ask (or if We ask applicants not to become too), and that first we must ask ourselves if we understand the needs of others and if you respond. In analyzing these arguments, try to be constructive, include, for example, that you want to receive more attention, there must first be understood that we are responsible for the care we receive, we must personally take better care of ourselves, "give us more attention "and learn to ask more carefully, if the other can not give us, it's up to him to learn to choose whether to stay in his inability or give us the necessary conclusions, or our departure.
  
• Couples: some theories that use an evolutionary approach to study the pair, using stages of child development dependency of Margaret Mahler, controdipendenza, independence and interdependence to explain how are born, grow and develop normally couples. Tends to be a phase of meeting and union in which one starts from a kind of symbiosis: You are always together, you see the positive side, the other is perfect. Then takes over a period of controdipendenza, disillusionment, differentiation, created the first signs of incompatibility, the first disappointment, the other no longer meets all our needs. It 'possible that they experience moments of discouragement, doubt. And so we enter the next phase of independence, in which the couple felt the need to reach out, to regain possession of their spaces and explore, at this stage as well as the crisis seems to be very likely also the betrayal, the partners still have the desire to stay together, and if they can come superarare this stage in the process of interdependence in which we come to accept a bond that will inevitably imperfect, but that may be satisfactory, the partners closer together. Beyond this pattern of reading that has its limits like any pattern, Circulation theoretical knowledge of the couple, can serve to better reflect on the reasons for its crisis: it can happen that will remain fixed in a phase, that of symbiosis, for example, and at some point it feels suffocating, or that of independence and continue to betray then wondering why you are together.
  trite to say, but another when it seems very likely that couples go into crisis is the birth of a child, even when you want, and you chose to have a child, the birth of a child involves a disruption first and then a total reorganization, which puts a strain on many couples. In this case, you know, couple Warned! Couples often are surprised that after the much awaited event of the birth, beyond the obvious first organizational difficulties they experience conflicts and misunderstandings; though not obvious is strongly normal physiological We must take time and play down a bit '.
  Even in the couple remain important boundaries, being a couple does not mean zero, or worse yet another place you always feel in harmony. We must take a space for themselves and leave something else and take and reserve a space for couples.
  
• Groups: including family, friendship groups and work, grow and develop, are born with certain procedures. One of the constants is that the various members tend to assume a role, a role that is invested. If you look at a group, you can easily identify who holds the leader, who's "black sheep" of the scapegoat, who test and so on. Even in this case very often the crisis comes when a member is not and therefore disturbs the balance, when one of the members exacerbates the role or when stopped instead of covering. Sometimes it happens rather than the member of the group continues to play the usual role, but this role is no longer functional group so that makes him or expel or in any way to change. Within groups can also usually find the alliances between the various members, this is a mechanism (more or less conscious) through which business decisions are made.
  If you are part of a team in crisis the most useful thing is to seek advice from someone outside the group, preferably an expert (who will not give indications of a party, but unbiased information), as personal resources may not be sufficient to address the crisis of an entire system; can still be useful to reflect on what role it plays within the group and how it is more correct to use its role or its suspension.

What is very often believed that necessarily the crisis in relations, "come and say" that the relationship must end, it is not necessarily so, some crisis "is telling us" it's time to close a report, others are there to transform it. Certain moments of crisis are laborious, require responsibility and commitment, but ultimately a little 'carefree, because even if the crisis, you can not find room for a bit' of lightness, irony and detachment, then out . As for the pain takes over, especially when one is alone, the time and the relationships themselves are the only drugs; sure you can indulge in a bit 'of time alone, you must meet before meeting others. In crisis situations related to relationships, when others tell us that will be hard to believe, is that we are exiting a separation, a bereavement or who knows What other situation, I just feel our pain, our anger, or sometimes what we tell ourselves as against indifference and apathy or euphoria (which is nothing but a way to avoid our pain), because we feel that these feelings are growing out of proportion (as much as the void is getting larger in us), it is hard to believe that eventually, it will be better. Yet, I believe that people like me to practice their profession as a psychotherapist, had a vantage point from which to view the world of relationships and know that even if there are too many certainties (even resolved a crisis that we face another) is instead sure that for everyone, wanting, there is the possibility to address the world of relations and crisis, it is possible to leave refreshed and ready to continue on its journey, at times lighthearted and at times a bit 'more burdened or marked: this is life.

Traps: sometimes there are some beliefs that I wanted to call pitfalls here, that fuel our state of crisis "sooner or later others will change and everything will be better", "I pretend to anything and everything as good as before "" I have to change at all costs so they'll like. " Only a few examples, these convictions that may cause our crisis will not dissolve but may be long: so often separates the other change for us, the others change only if they really want to do it, we can affect our change, but hope to stay there in the other's is quite counterproductive to pretend anything, this is a ' other solutions that we sometimes take in times of crisis, a solution for a moment that if a human being can take, over time we can backfire, can lead us to distance us from our real needs, to build a fictional world in which " anything goes ", but nothing really good. And again, another trick may be to impose a change at all costs, and do not in themselves, but in the hope that the other, friend, partner, family, we appreciate more, in most cases we end up with small and superficial changes do you want, and with each other, following our change to or moved away or approached but we do not we want more. Among the many compromises that sometimes the relationship will, of course the lie to oneself may be one of the most harmful.

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Crisis and Crisis and opportunity


I decided to devote some space to the "crisis", a word that is abundant and rampant now ... and sometimes I feel a certain discomfort about what happens at a collective level and that very similar to what sometimes happens at the individual level: was so taken by the crisis and bask in their own personal drama that ends up not looking at what is good and all that could be done because things were better or at least to avoid the worst ... and it remains helpless and moaning, unnecessarily destructive or self-destructive. And surely even this need, but can not be a permanent condition! Sometimes then you do not want to face the reality, sometimes the crisis suits (now talk of crisis is a business!), Sometimes it is simply not yet able to ask for help. And then, if it is true that sometimes occurs to me that this is a bad world, it's a bad time ... ... and here we should gamble the game, the best of their ability! Beginning from this first post to talk about a crisis .. I think I will write more on track, so to speak, by sector: crisis and labor relations and crisis, and so on.



In a word these days is often present in the titles and newspaper articles, on television, in the discourses of intellectuals and people on the street crisis, a condition, a difficult time, that what ever this historical period seems to belong to everyone and raise alarm and astonishment.

But on the other hand, alarm and surprise are part of any crisis, whether individual or collective, and the crisis is part of every life of every society, of each individual. At the social level, such as age, as the company has not gone through a crisis? Many companies qualify as advanced, in various historical periods, have experienced moments of economic crisis, high conflict, poverty and disease, progress and then regress, defined as less advanced society, but steadily built up, too, have suffered large crisis, until the final crisis that has seen them succumbing to the arrogance and the invasion of foreign populations.
And, at the individual, who, before an unexpected negative event, faced with a situation of sudden and radical change or the maintenance of a prolonged discomfort, not to be found to cross a crisis? Crisis of the Third Age, the crisis in the seventh year of marriage, adolescent crisis, depression, love, crisis, financial crisis, job crisis, and I could go. The crisis is often linked to moments of transition or, conversely, the persistence of situations that, after a period shorter or longer, "they fail and fall. You will feel disoriented, with a sense of helplessness and bewilderment, fears, anxieties, which hopes to merge struggling to make their way from the thousands of doomsday predictions.

And then there's the crisis as a condition of life, a constant crisis, perennial, not only for a moment, but a permanent condition that characterizes many lives, many companies. How not to define critical, for example, the situation of society perpetually at war? Or that children who live in the barracks, on the street without adult contexts of reference? And yet, as critics do not define the lives of those living, unable to leave or leave without being able or wanting, a state of physical or mental illness? However, the word

crisis, although it is often used as a negative word, does not in itself a negative connotation, as I have said it is a condition, a phase, a temporary state that includes many opportunities, including positive. To define the crisis, both the individual and the society, many contributing factors: subjective, cultural, environmental, materials and even politicians, I dare say. Only a few examples: what is called crisis by an individual that is not defined by another, what is the crisis in a culture takes on another meaning in another, the financial crisis of the great entrepreneur is very different from that of 'in worker layoffs, the disappointment of a love affair gone wrong has nothing to do with a state of full-blown depression, talk of a crisis can be appropriate for some political factions, less for others, and can sometimes be exploited; economic crises are often linked to political views in crisis, a positive change, a situation that you've always desired, such as success, can change your life and be wonderful for some, unbearable for others.
However, whether we like it or not the crisis is ours, where there is life there is no crisis, one might say, the crisis periodically intensifies, seems to run out and then come back, is a physiological condition of individual development , society, environment. In the crisis, the individual and society can find themselves lost or, depending on how it is heard, raising awareness and addressed. It is often said that we must tackle the crisis, I believe more correct to say that the crisis needs to be addressed, not fought. If you refuse to accept an objective condition of crisis may be counterproductive to fight at all costs to overcome the crisis can sometimes be used, but many other times, it can only make it weaker. Instead, understand their own crisis, observing closely, accept it, cross it and play with it, can be a good strategy.
The crisis is inevitable, and may not necessarily be harmful, deleterious may not be able to "play" with the crisis. If alarm and astonishment as I said are very normal reactions to the condition of crisis, you need to understand how not to get overwhelmed by these feelings, but channel them into constructive actions or inactions. The fear, the sense of "paralysis" or, conversely, of desperate hyperactivity, which sometimes attack people or society in crisis, must not be neither ignored nor suppressed, but heard. Even from an evolutionary point of view, negative emotions have had and have the alarm function; experience negative emotions, it means that there is a perceived danger, a potentially damaging situation.

The fact that there is a potential danger does not necessarily mean that the danger is to succumb to us, rather that there is a situation to change and you need to identify the resources you have or find that you have to implement change . If you find yourself in a critical condition, there is little escape from reality sense, it is sensible, if ever, do not run away from, but toward a new reality, just as the French biologist explains poetically Laborit (2000), in his "In Praise of the Fugue": "When you can no longer fight against the wind and the sea \u200b\u200bto follow his route, the ship has two options: the pace on the hood (...) what makes him adrift, and escape before the storm with the sea at your back and a minimum of canvas. The flight often when you are away from the coast, is the only way to save the boat and crew. It is also used to discover unknown banks sprouting on the horizon of the calm waters back. Banks will be unfamiliar to those who have always ignored by the illusory fortunate to be able to follow the route of freighters and tankers, the predictable route set by the shipping lines. "
This is not an escape to avoid responsibility or an escape to leave everything behind, the flight we are talking about here is an escape from the danger of leaving to live life by the events, without choosing. There's the predictable route and there is no travel that does not involve some degree of fatigue, but it's worth it.

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body and soul, sex and desire


An old article ...


sex, between the need and desire: the body, soul and star of desires.

The findings on the neurophysiological mechanisms dictate that many human behaviors, show us all that the desire for sexual-related, is driven by a subtle interplay of stimulation and counter-stimulation, which involves the three essential components of the human being: body, psyche and relationships. Summarily, it can be said that behind this desire is a biological component underlying instinctual (the one that sets in motion a series of neuro-chemical processes in cascade and was born to a primary need of the species: procreation), a motivational-affective ( the need to please and love, and also feeds on fantasy and erotic imagination. In this intimate and emotional relationship that includes both the person has with itself, both relations that intertwines with the others), and a mental-cognitive (actually a defense mechanism, which leads to analyze the factors that make sexual behavior or should be avoided. This dimension, however, is often overwhelmed by invading instinctual and affective factors , and chance encounters at high risk of sexually transmitted diseases will be limited to: the conduct undermines the instinct of self-protection that stands the risk of mental analysis and the person, although aware of the danger, will you leave). Sexual desire is a key stage in the relationship, because this stage is active, the brain produces in quantities of a neurotransmitter, dopamine, which calls for the desire and slows the production of the substance that inhibits serotonin. It has also reduced production of endorphins by the hypothalamus and increases the production of a molecule that regulates the reproductive hormone system: the GnRH. Moreover, because everything is conducted properly it is necessary that the "emotional brain", the limbic system, give the green light in front of an emotion with erotic connotations: it is in practice need to lose some inhibitions and "letting go". The set of physical and psychic phenomena that occur in the human body (with a few differences between men and women) after an erotic stimulus is defined as "sexual response cycle" and includes four stages: 1
. excitement
2. plateau
3. orgasm
4. resolution
The word "need" comes from the Latin bi-Somnium (one of the etymologies that is due) and, remotely, from Gothic Sunia (which means "need" and set "impediment"), a need is the power to a certain satisfaction, that fill a specific deficiency. De-siderite in Latin it means to observe the stars (siderite) carefully; the desiderantes in "De bello Gallico" were the soldiers who were waiting under the stars after those who fought during the day, had not yet returned, according The legend, however, a haruspex, that they drew from observing the stars and their prophecies of what drew great respect and power, when the sky was covered by clouds, was powerless to perform its functions divination. Precisely in these circumstances the haruspex felt rising within himself the desire of the stars, so that, again because they could see again, without the obstacle of the clouds, he could start to do its job. Sex can be placed precisely between the need and desire to fill a physical need, a desire to achieve and constantly feeding, reduce it to mere need, or pure desire to be exhaustive. Our body needs of dopamine and serotonin (activity and inactivity) our psyche needs now to want now to stop doing that (the absence is necessary to feed as much as the presence of desire) and body and soul have a "damn" and wonderful, predetermined (and inherent to the human condition) need to be together, the body keeps the soul "and" the soul takes the body. " The chemistry of our body has its own laws, even the mechanics of our psyche, the desire to help us transcend the base mechanism that we find ourselves in body and soul. That said, now, if I had to take refuge in some silly council to close this article, I would say: every so remember to pause and look at the sky, stars, and then express your desire, but with soul and body, and again, restoring and modifying an old slogan: make love, desire, and you will see that in this way, you will not be tempted to waste time body and soul, in making war!